In "This" Lies an Opportunity
Written by Colton Jones
About ten years ago when I started helping Dan manage the ranch, one of the first things he taught me about buffalo, was that for every attempt failed, lies an opportunity. Itβs a concept that Iβve embraced since that day.
The same concept can be applied to the current global crisis. Unfortunately, media outlets tend to spotlight the negative, which at times, makes it impossible to not have some kind of emotional response to an event that has changed so many lives in such a short period of time. But, at the same time, opportunity offers a remedy to do things better.
A month and a half ago, Jilian and I had a discussion with our good friend Tahnee, who cares for our two boys while we are working, as to how we should handle the current coronavirus situation. We decided it would be best to suspend her trips to the ranch in an effort to exercise social distancing. Following Tahneeβs absence and school closings, Jilian, Dan, Jill and I have been sharing the workload of watching the boys.
Itβs not unusual for the two of them to jump in the pickup with me and do chores around the ranch. It takes a bit longer, but the company they provide is a good trade-off. They've also spent time at the harvest site on those days we're harvesting the buffalo at the Cheyenne River Ranch. Over the last eight weeks, theyβve gained full doses of those tasks, and then some.
Watching them learn tangible skills such as, gun safety, to properly caring for and moving the harvested buffalo into the mobile truck, to driving a pickup or hooking up a trailer is gratifying. The thought of young and upcoming help on the ranch is any fatherβs dream. Itβs the intangible knowledge that comes in the form of respect, patience and compassion that truly makes me appreciative of my recent time spent with the boys. This βknowledgeβ has become evident in our conversations during our now traditional βend of the workdayβ fishing hole visits.
We discuss the dayβs events, and also how and why our lives have changed the way they have. I try my best to address every question with the most honest answer possible; and Iβve learned that sugar coating things results in immediate and/or delayed confusion.
I give explanations to sensitive questions rooting from their experiences that day. Birth, death, economy and a pandemic are a few notable and recent topics. Their reactions to my explanations are more practical than most adults in which I have had similar conversations with.
I canβt help but admire the compassion they exhibit in their conversations with one another. I noticed this while my oldest son Lincoln, tried his hand at explaining to his younger brother as to why we were returning the fish back to the water instead of eating them. Lincolnβs explanation of, βWe only take what we needβ had me beaming.
Much like Dan did with me, Iβve tried to use the time with my boys to show them that although something negative may be staring them in the face, an opportunity to have a hand in making an improvement is somewhere in the distance. I hope anyone who is feeling down during these strange times can look beyond the bad and ask themselves, βHow can I lend my hand in making this betterβ?
Although I admittedly have been going to bed earlier, Jilian reminds me that, βEven though you may be exhausted after running with two little cowboys all day, these times are limited. So, cherish them...β
So, cherish them I have.
Thanks for sharing, this was just great, especially the pics. This is great example of unschooling, living and learning in the real world. My family owns a farm and my son loves being involved in everything. We are unschooling him so he will grow up learning about real life instead of being disconnected from it.
You can learn more about unschooling hereβ¦
https://www.unschooling.com/t/welcome-to-unschooling/7
We are keeping have a 5 yr old grandson we are keeping during the day. He started out coming ready to do school work. Now he has to feed the animals, gather the eggs and check the live trap before any school work gets done. Heβs learned how to clean his 22, cast a reel, hammer nails and drill! There are a 100 questions a day , and we are exhausted but truly blessed. Loved you story.
Nice crop of kids you and Jilian are raising there, Colton. You can see a thoughtful, caring future in their eyes. Few things are more inspiring than new growth in the spring.
I love a good, positive story, especially now. This one really warmed my heart. You are harvesting wonderful memoriesβ¦
So good to see that the family is fine and learning from this terrible situation we are all experiencing. I had intended to see you in September with another group from Grenoble France. I missed so much not being with my group last September due to my unexpected health problems. βPick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again.β Which I did, and I put together another trip for September 2020β¦Well, pick myself up againβ¦it will now be for September 2021. I WILL MEET YOU AGAIN!!! Sometimes when you have to wait longer for something, the waiting makes it even better. Looking forward now to September 2021!
Jane Baile (UniversitΓ© Inter-Ages du Dauphine -UIAD- Grenoble, France)